It was like the scene of movie, but a nightmare. My son lay in the street, whimpering in pain, blood oozing from cuts in his knees, on his arms, his knuckles, forehead, and even his goddamn toes, where the street pavement had beaten it’s way through the cotton socks.
A couple of neighbor ladies stood with me in the street, ushering cars around him, as he claimed he couldn’t move his body. Even as I insisted, having seen many bicycle crashes (and the often gnarly aftermath), many times before, that he try to move to the side of the road. I think my first need was to get him to a safer place, but he just couldn’t. Baffled, and increasingly worried, we thought out loud to one another, that maybe he shouldn’t move then.
I called his dad, a pro athlete who has taken many a spill himself, even breaking his collar bone and shattering an arm, for an observation, but he didn’t pick up. I asked the other mother standing with me over my son, if I should call 911. She said she thought we’d better, and so I tapped in the three little numbers for the second time this year. This kid is seriously aiming to be on a first name basis with every police officer and paramedic in the neighborhood by the time he graduates from High school. He just hasn’t admitted it yet …
Let me rewind. I had been sitting in my front yard having a lovely visit with my aunt and three of her grandchildren, who had come to see our basket of kittens, when my oldest son had rode up on his bike. He said hello to everyone, but was anxious to get to his next destination, with my permission. I hesitated when he asked if he could go to a nearby park to spend time with his new girlfriend. I had no reason to, and I even stopped and wondered why the hesitation. I like this girlfriend. I trust him. It made no sense, so I told him yes, but not to be away for too long. He waved goodbye to everyone, and a minute later the most heart wrenching screaming started. It’s a sound that would grab any mother’s attention.
Of course, being his mama, I did recognize the sound of his voice. I jumped up, my phone in my hand, and ran. I could see a car sitting in front of him, and him sprawled out on the ground feet away from his bike. I instantly assumed the worst, that he’d been hit by a car. So many things were going through my mind in the thirty seconds it took me to get to him. I was wondering how to unlock my phone to call 911 while I was running, I was scoping out the woman in the car (who seemed annoyed at this unfortunate interruption in her day), I was envisioning myself opening her car door, pulling her out, and laying into her. I decided against that.
The scene was truly horrific. I mean, the kid had holes in his fucking socks, where his little toes were bleeding. Every single one of his knuckles was bleeding, skinned red and raw. His forehead had a big bump forming on it. I started asking him questions about what had happened. He said his chain had fallen off and he’d flipped completely over the bars, flying and skidding across the road, hence all the damage.
Fast forward to the paramedics arriving, and determining within thirty seconds that my dying child just needed bacatin and a good shower, Three men who obviously weren’t maternal in the least, still they were nice. The neighbor who had seen my son crash, recounted the event, saying that she had heard a scream, “Oh fuck!” and seen him in the road, to which the gentlemen laughed out loud.
I am so warmed by the mother’s and fellow human beings who stood over my son, before I even got there, making sure a car didn’t hit him. Staying with me, talking to me, to him, and handing me painkillers for later, so I wouldn’t be overcharged at the hospital if that’s where we ended up. I happen to love the police, and paramedics, the heroes of our society. I mean, they show up at crazy scenes that sometimes end up being sort of humorous later on, and often they arrive to scenes nobody wants to be at. I salute them.
Fast forward to tonight, when reflection kicks in. The boys are out with their dad and his friend, maybe going to take go carts for a spin, and I know I am lucky for this gentle reminder of how precious life is. At how instantly things change. And how grateful we should always be for the universe working in small ways to keep us here, until we aren’t supposed to be any longer. It is not lost on me that had this silly bike crash happened elsewhere that the outcome might be a lot harder to swallow.
I have a pretty banged up teenage boy on my hands, but he’s alive. He’s here, because of all of these little things lining up rather perfectly in his favor. The fact that he crashed three houses down on a rural street, rather than on crossing a busier street on his way (which he would have) to the park. The fact that the women in the car behind him was paying attention (sorry I wanted to beat you up, thought you killed my kid), and stopped. The fact that these women I’d never met before, took over as the other mother’s while I stood there wondering how to even get through it, is all a blessing. My sweet Aunt even drove her beautiful green car three houses down to pick him up and transport him home.
The world isn’t always a bad place. The people in it, can surprise you. And the connection we feel, specifically when all disguises must fall, is the reason we live through our darkest storms, through the impossible moments. I think we can count on others to show up when we need them the most, including the universe. We just have to be open to all the subtle ways we are being blessed every single day.
Namaste